There is no more fulfilling love than that of self love. No one can love you in a way that is greater than your capacity to love yourself.
God, the universe, can only provide love to you in a way that matches your own level of self love. So, even then, it is dependent on your own capacity for being the source of your own love.
At a very basic level, woven within the fabric of our society there are a few pretty decent tenets. These are unwritten laws that are always there in the back of our minds, no matter how much we try to avoid them.
The golden rule, how does that go again? Treat others the way you want to be treated.
That really is beautiful fundamentally. And it is there even in the most heinous of violent crimes, as a backdrop in the subconscious. Even the killer who does his deed in cold blood has to shut off his subconscious mechanism of guilt and shame.
But, you know, I take issue with the golden rule because it takes into account the fact that we all like to be treated respectfully and with kindness and in a way that says, “I am unworthy!” That is self love.
Christianity acknowledges everyone as a sinner first! And the doctrine of original sin has deeply contributed to the creation of shame, guilt, and fear within its followers. Has any of you ever asked yourself how it is possible for a newborn baby to have sinned?
We are convicted as soon as we leave the womb. Is it any wonder why we have a society that has gone so wrong?
We project our fears, our anger, our frustration onto others so often because we do not consciously feel we are worthy or capable of dealing with our own problems. We do not feel fit to life.
And, god forbid, we actually find enjoyment in life!
We scream to ourselves, “I am unworthy!” “I do not deserve to be happy when others suffer!”
As immediately as good things come into our lives, we start looking for reasons why those things will be taken away from us. And what this does is create more suffering in this loveless world.
No one can bear such immense levels of hatred. But, this is what our religions are urging us to do. They urge us to look at ourselves as the creator of all of our problems while giving no way to constructively deal with those problems.
So we sit there, swimming in a sea of our own guilt, with no way to understand what we have done to deserve it and no way to therapeutically handle it and create positive change. What is the truth?
The truth is that humanity deserves only love. It does not deserve blame. A wall of hatred towards the self has been hoisted upon us with no reason given, because there is no reason for its existence.
Without the love and value of self…we continue to seek external validation. We seek validation from our parents, our siblings, from our teachers and priests and from every source except that which holds the only true love that can be found.
Love yourself. Value yourself. This is the mechanism that first teaches us what the feeling of love is and you cannot love others until you have felt that love within yourself.
If you try to love another. It inevitably manifests as clingy, hate filled, angry, and possessive love. This can only go either of two ways. You can be filled overflowing with a feeling of love or you can be filled overflowing with a feeling of deep fear.
While our fear manifests as a need to possess, control, and use others, true love manifests as a need to serve, bless, help, and give to others, with no thought to what we will receive in return because we ARE the love and we ARE the giving. That’s where we live.
Now, please know that I am still in the process of searching for this.
I grew up despising myself. I was treated harshly by others in many ways. I was picked on and made fun of. I felt unloved by my family and by those around me in just about every way that you can imagine. I was in perpetual fear. I was afraid of meeting new people and of showing others who I really was.
At some point, I snapped and decided that from then on, I would be me. I would create myself as the person I felt that I could be and wanted to be. And I would, most of all, love myself and stop hiding myself from the world.
Its been a very very long and hard path. No one around me reacted happily to the changes they noticed. Although, there were a few saviors who came into my life to show me that the path I had taken was the right one.
This world and the powers that be, have as their core power, an ability to force us to feel inferior. The hate that exists in the world is a simple manifestation out of the hate and anger we feel toward ourselves.
How do we change this?
You must manifest a deep love for you, for the you that you are, for the you that you were, and for the you that you will one day become.
You…everyone who reads this….everyone who will read this…who wont read this…you…all of us…everyone living, breathing, walking…..you….carry within you the capacity for unconditional love. You can only unleash that when you’ve begun to feel it for yourself.
You carry within you every thing that you need. So, stop fearing what you feel is inevitable and start feeling grateful for what you have now. Stop fearing being alone…or being unloved…or the torment of others…or that you cant pay the bills….
Its a proven fact that 90 percent of what we create in our minds out of fear is all false! Its all untrue and it only comes about in our existence as a result of us creating it!
Love yourself, with everything that you are. Become the light you wish to see in the world. You need not feed off of the energy of others. Create it within yourself with love. And as you begin to overwhelm yourself with this feeling, you will begin overflowing with so much of it that you will not be able to hold it back.
This overwhelming feel of love, joy, and bliss will spill out onto everyone you come across. And, you will begin to see the good in everything. In every so called bad thing that happens to you , there is a seed of goodness and a seed of truth.
Be a warrior and not a victim. Develop the capacity to see life as a set of challenges to face and plateaus to surpass and everything will change for you and in your world.
The way others see you will change. The way you are received by others will change. Your ability to communicate will deepen. Everything about you will grow and become better by the sole capacity of love you have within.
Until you can look into the mirror of the universe and look with a smile toward the image projected back at you, no matter what its current condition, things will never change and the love you seek will never be found.
Do it now. Love yourself from the depths of who you are. You cannot wait until you are deserving because you have been deserving since before you were even a concept in the minds of those who brought you into the world.
Don’t wait until you find the perfection you are seeking! Stop seeking perfection and begin SEEING that perfection in the mirror of the universe.
“Seek the kingdom of heaven and all will be given unto you.”
The kingdom of heaven is inside of you! Stop seeking it and begin manifesting it. It is in you and it is waiting to come forth. Love yourself. Believe in your own capacities and your own inherent right to all the goodness that the world has to offer.
If we all did this, don’t you think this would be a different world?
Peace, Love, Light!
